IT’S TIME TO ADJUST OUR GRATITUDE

IT’S TIME TO ADJUST OUR GRATITUDE

One year ago today, I was in New York. I was there as part of a business program.

While there I saw the musical, Chicago, toured the city by foot for 4 hours one night (can you say blisters?), visited Central Park, Rockefeller skating rink, and, of course, Times Square surrounded by thousands of others.

On my last day I visited the Empire State building (attached pic) and the 911 Memorial… I still remember how palpable the energy was and how it moved me to tears. I am SO grateful for the experiences and to have seen so much of this incredible city!

To say that a lot has happened in just 12 short months is an understatement! Who knew, right? Just 8 months later Covid hit. New York, one of the hardest hit US states, and the rest of the world changed forever… and keeps changing.

As I reflect, it makes me blatantly aware of two things…

1) Nothing in our outer world is permanent. NOTHING. Everything is transient. And yes, sometimes way more transient (and more drastic) than we’d like!

2) Even though I was super grateful for the experiences, I only recently realized that there could be another layer of gratitude. Like so many of us, I took for granted being able to hop on a plane, visit a new city or be amongst hundreds or even thousands of other people. I never gave it a second thought. (Sort of like the sun rising, the air we breathe, the roof over our heads… you get the picture.)

I believe what we are ALL going through is a time of awakening…

To adjust to this ‘new world’, we need to also adjust our gratitude. I feel it’s important we don’t fall prey to thinking there is less to be grateful for! (If you follow any of Dr. David Hawkins work and his map of consciousness, gratitude is calibrated at 510, where fear is 100. How we want to feel is a choice.)

For me, I have newfound gratitude… I am more grateful than ever for:

– My health
– My walks, hikes, runs, especially near the water
– The silly times with my girls (who are home safe and sound with me)
– Our little 6lb fur baby who teaches us unconditional love every day
– My ability to love, even it’s from 6 feet away (like my amazing 85 year old dad)
– The freedom to create my life on my terms
– My home and the food we make (even though I’m not the best cook lol)
– My tenacity and zest for transformation and those who have worked with me
– My audible collection 🙂
– All the incredible people I have met from all over the world in the last 4 months thanks to technology

I’m also grateful for the opportunity to share my thoughts here with you… xo

What newfound gratitude do you have that you might have previously taken for granted?

DO YOUR FEELINGS GUIDE YOU OR TAKE YOU OFF COURSE?

DO YOUR FEELINGS GUIDE YOU OR TAKE YOU OFF COURSE?

Do your feelings guide you on your life path, or take you off course?

Actually, they do both!

The key is to learn to know and recognize the difference between real feelings and misleading feelings; between being guided on your life path, or taken off course.

Let’s start with being taken off course…

There is a lot of misleading information out there about using your feelings to guide you in making decisions. You often hear, “Well, how do you feel about that?” or “Let your feelings guide you.” This can be great advice OR it can be the worst advice… you must look beyond face value.

There are times when feelings are not a good guidance system; often they’re run by your ego.

Consider these common “feelings: ”I don’t feel like getting out of bed today. I don’t feel like attending that workshop I signed up for. I don’t feel like working today. I don’t feel like having a salad for dinner, but I DO feel like deep fried chicken and a big bucket of fries. I don’t feel like going to the gym, but I DO feel like laying on the couch instead.

These feelings are clearly sending poor messages… or are they?

Let’s dive deeper…

Consider the example of not wanting to get out of bed. You may be tired, but the truth is that you need to get your ass out of bed.

OR

Maybe your truth is that it’s in your highest good to actually stay in bed and honour your body because you’re truly burnt-out and need some down-time.

Can you FEEL the difference?

It’s not always obvious. And sometimes the lines can get fuzzy and you may blur the lines with your thinking, feeling, rationalizing, justifying, and guilting… and then come down hard on yourself.

If the latter feeling is your truth and you get your ass out of bed, you’ve completely dismissed and ignored your feelings all together. You got out of bed because your guidance system was based on what others think; what you “should” be doing (ie. going to work despite being sick or run-down).

Overriding YOU and what is most important to you and your well-being, is a surefire way to keep you off course from living what’s in your highest good.

To learn to listen to your true, guided feelings takes work. It means learning to recognize and know what’s true for you; to be tuned into YOU.

It’s getting clarity so you can know exactly what to do in each and every moment.. to be guided to live your highest path.

When I was studying as an acupressure therapist, we had a saying, “your body is always talking to you, are you listening?”

So just how do you learn to listen and to know when your feelings are a good guidance, and when they are veering you off course?

My mom used to say, “I have a gut feeling.” Call it intuition, a little nudge, a knowing that’s coming from that deeper part of you that is guiding and supporting you. These feelings never steer you wrong.

Sometimes it’s obvious, but other times it’s not so clear. So you need to learn to tell the difference between your ego and your essence. As you practice, you can begin to sense if it’s a fleeting feeling (your ego) OR a knowing feeling (essence) from the quieter, deeper, guiding part of you.

Let me share an example with you. At the end of January, I had a strong feeling to pull my retreat out of my 3-month High Powered Living program. Why? I had no idea at the time. It didn’t make sense. Every intellectual thought I had told me to hold a retreat for my group. But the feeling I had was undeniable, so I knew I had to listen. (I’m sure my mom was looking down saying, “Way to use your gut, Janine”.)

Fast forward one month and the Covid-19 pandemic hit… and it all made sense.

Knowing the difference between your real feelings and misleading feelings guides you with greater ease through life.

And who doesn’t want a cheat sheet?

THE FORK IN THE ROAD

THE FORK IN THE ROAD

Follow your truth… wherever it takes you.

Janine Brolly

We are all familiar with the saying, ‘the fork in the road’. We know it symbolizes a decision point in our lives where an opportunity presents itself and we must choose which direction we will take.

Let me tell you about a different fork in the road. One I’ve experienced that I hope sheds some light on your decisions when you meet your fork in the road.

Growing up I felt like I did all the ‘right things’ – being the good girl, the people pleaser, doing what I was told – you know the drill and maybe you can relate. So I felt that I ‘should’ have been on the right path.

As an adult, busy mom and business owner I was ambitious, driven, continually learning, taking workshops and even leading workshops… BUT most days I was running around on autopilot, just going through the motions of daily life. I was doing the DO, but never slowing down long enough to dip below the threshold to see what’s really going on.

For the most part, it appeared I had a pretty good life but truth be told, I wasn’t totally fulfilled. I had patterns of burn-out, and was lacking that passion; that joie de vivre! I knew that there had to be more… I could feel it in my bones that something deep within me was calling.

And then it hit me. What was missing in my life was ME. I hadn’t made me a priority in my own life!

I needed to look inside; to ask myself what I wanted? What was most important to me?

I had hit the metaphorical fork in the road. And now that I was aware of it, I had to move forward… it’s a no-brainer decision, right? Or is it?

On one hand… (here is where the ego kicks in)… my life isn’t that bad, right? I mean, do I really want to go down this new road? Do I really need to change?

But on the other hand, I could sense a calling, a pull as if it was from my soul. I couldn’t ignore that, could I?

But wait? Does this mean I need to be willing to go deeper and meet myself? To embrace, honour and love the part of me that I wasn’t previously willing to even look at, let alone unconditionally accept?

Decision time – stay comfy, familiar, don’t rock the boat, comply with what people think of me
OR
cross over the barrier, into the unknown… where deep down I KNEW with every cell of my being that my soul was calling me and where I would truly flourish.

It took a few tries, even waffling between being comfy and being courageous, but I finally listened. I chose me. I chose alignment and purpose. And it was the best decision of my life – right up there with having kids!

I share this with you because I want you to know that if you have reached your fork in the road, no matter how difficult it might seem, taking that leap is SOOO worth it.

My wish is for you to go for everything you’ve ever wanted. Far too many people make positive change only when the pain becomes too great… you don’t have to wait. You can choose YOU now!

And if you want some support as you bravely choose your new path let’s set up a time to talk.

I can’t promise you what lies ahead for you, but I can promise you that choosing to follow your truth always pays off. Always, ALL ways.

WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE FLAVOUR OF SUFFERING?

WHAT IS YOUR FAVOURITE FLAVOUR OF SUFFERING?

Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.

Eckhart Tolle

What is your favourite flavour of suffering? (Say what?!)

Yup! We ALL do it! Some more than others. We make things waaaay harder on ourselves than need be.

It might be a minor event like getting stuck in heavy traffic OR a major event like staying in a relationship or job far too long when you knew it was best to leave.

Let’s break it down…

In the case of heavy traffic, the suffering has nothing to do with the traffic at all, it’s the meaning we attach to it. When we label heavy traffic as ‘bad’, it contradicts our idea of ‘good’ traffic. So we’ve created a situation where we suffer. We want ‘good’ traffic, we have ‘bad’ traffic, so now we are unhappy.

Totally unnecessary AND we’ve disconnected from the truth of who we are.

Heavy traffic is neither good nor bad. It just is. When we label what is happening as ‘bad’, we give it power. Not to mention, we are giving away our power!!

And when we do this hundreds of times a day in a myriad of ways, not only have we created our own suffering, we actually become addicted to the rush we experience each time we encounter another ‘bad’ situation.

Soooo… now that we are more aware, we have a choice in how we want to show up – we can choose to continue down the same unconscious bumpy road that controls us OR we can take the highway (aka the high way) by letting go of the unnecessary attachment and accepting what is out of our control.

Not good. Not bad. Just acceptance of what is… THIS is the road free of suffering!

ONENESS NOT SEPARATENESS

ONENESS NOT SEPARATENESS

I saved this photo in my phone back in Nov 2015 as I loved the human-ness of it; the pureness, the innocence and how it captures our truest nature – Oneness.

Now, I don’t consider myself a political person, but I DO take a stand for the betterment of humanity… we all must!

As I watched the news last night (I typically watch ‘just enough’ to get a pulse) my eyes began to well up… protests, riots, watching George Floyd’s brother. Wow.

When I reflect on it, what I see is a test. We are ALL being tested right now, here in this moment in time. We are being asked to heal our individual wounds and our collective wounds. The world is demanding it and we must heed that call.

Now this may feel like a jump from the divisiveness of today, but if we all understood Oneness – that at the core of who we are, we are not separate – we would not be in this destructive and chaotic place right now.

I’m well aware that for some, Oneness may sound fluffy and vague, but nothing could be farther from the truth. To KNOW and experience Oneness is all encompassing; it’s where we find true freedom, true peace of mind, unconditional love and acceptance.

In this place there is no room for hatred.

You see Oneness can be experienced without credence to any particular religion; it doesn’t see skin colour or sex. To understand Oneness is to KNOW we are all connected; we all came from the same ‘place’, made from the same ‘stuff’, we will return to the same ‘place’.

These bodies we live in, the colour of our skin that God/Creator/Universal Energy (whatever your belief is) gave us, are NOT WHO we are… it’s just our outer (and temporary) packaging.

Sure, as humans we are different and unique, but the essence of who we are is NOT different or unique. And THAT is the point society is missing right now!

Whether on a global level or personal level, we are well overdue for a reframe – to turn away from our ‘perceived enemy’ and look within (something most people do not have the courage to do). The truth is our ‘perceived enemy’ is always our own projection. ALWAYS. In essence, we are fighting ourselves!

Two weeks ago, I spoke about Oneness vs Separateness in the program I’m leading. I know it can be a bit of a mind f**k at first, but as we wrap our heads around it and learn to go beyond the mind, ego, thoughts, and senses that typically dominate us, we become aware of our connectedness… even if it’s just glimpses at first.

As you practice and experience this state more, you’ll see through a new lens, one that no longer recognizes ourselves as separate from everyone else, but rather intrinsically interconnected.

And as we each do our own part, it will impact the whole as it ripples out… which is so very needed, not to mention, incredibly healing and freeing!

Let me put this in more practical terms – what if we all do our part and become a little more aware, care a little more, wake up a little more, heal a little more, help a little more, grow a little more, smile a little more, give a little more, love a little more? What impact could that have?

The future is in our hands. It starts with the actions we choose right now, today, in this moment. As Barack Obama said in this week’s address to the nation, “You have the power to make things better.”

Remember: The world is asking for the best version of ourselves right now.

Let’s all do our part for ALL of humanity – for ourselves, our children, our family, our community, our country, our planet.

I love how John Lennon summarized Oneness so eloquently, “I am he, as you are he, as you are me, and we are all together.”