Suffering is necessary until you realize it is unnecessary.
What is your favourite flavour of suffering? (Say what?!)
Yup! We ALL do it! Some more than others. We make things waaaay harder on ourselves than need be.
It might be a minor event like getting stuck in heavy traffic OR a major event like staying in a relationship or job far too long when you knew it was best to leave.
Let’s break it down…
In the case of heavy traffic, the suffering has nothing to do with the traffic at all, it’s the meaning we attach to it. When we label heavy traffic as ‘bad’, it contradicts our idea of ‘good’ traffic. So we’ve created a situation where we suffer. We want ‘good’ traffic, we have ‘bad’ traffic, so now we are unhappy.
Totally unnecessary AND we’ve disconnected from the truth of who we are.
Heavy traffic is neither good nor bad. It just is. When we label what is happening as ‘bad’, we give it power. Not to mention, we are giving away our power!!
And when we do this hundreds of times a day in a myriad of ways, not only have we created our own suffering, we actually become addicted to the rush we experience each time we encounter another ‘bad’ situation.
Soooo… now that we are more aware, we have a choice in how we want to show up – we can choose to continue down the same unconscious bumpy road that controls us OR we can take the highway (aka the high way) by letting go of the unnecessary attachment and accepting what is out of our control.
Not good. Not bad. Just acceptance of what is… THIS is the road free of suffering!