Today, I want to talk about one of our biggest hidden superpowers – vulnerability.
Did you just feel tempted to stop reading? Vulnerability can make us uncomfortable, but it’s soooo necessary.
In fact, it’s a big missing piece in how most of us do life, relationships, and business.
It’s not always easy to show what we perceive as “flaws”, we can often turn a blind eye to them ourselves. But here’s the thing, being vulnerable is what makes us human and when we can learn to embrace all of ourselves, even the parts we’d rather not share, that’s what leads to true abundance.
For me, I’ve often held back in the vulnerability department, but it keeps coming up… and when that happens, it’s a big flag for me to lean towards it and embrace it.
So as I explore this for myself, I invite you to do the same. There is so much more depth, relatability, and joy when we are willing to go there with people.
Brené Brown, the queen of vulnerability, talks about how when we numb out in any area like worthiness or shame, we also numb out in the other areas like joy, belonging, and connection. We can’t selectively numb out on one thing without the other.
Yet, when we do lean in and embrace those parts of ourselves, it amplifies the positive.
That’s a pretty good reason to lean in, isn’t it?
It’s not about giving away our deepest, darkest secrets.
It is about showing our humanness. It’s what makes us relatable, which naturally brings us closer to one another.
Let’s explore this. Why do you think that people don’t want to share themselves or be seen?
Maybe it’s fear of rejection, or fear of what people will think. There could be shame around it or a desire to be seen a certain way. Sometimes it’s because we might think it will make us look weak.
What is it for you? What do you fear could happen if you let your guard down?
Now challenge that thought… is it true? Crack it open just a little bit and be willing to let people see just a little bit more. This could be different for everyone. Some people are great at being seen, while others hold back. No matter where you are on the spectrum, there’s always another level.
Ask yourself the following: If I stay put and I’m not vulnerable, I get to…. (stay small, stay safe, not be judged, etc.)
Chances are when you ask this question, you’ll see that it’s not actually serving you.
Remember: The degree to which you can be vulnerable will be the same degree you will grow into the woman you are meant to be.
Give it a try and let me know how it goes.