We all have desires. It’s part of the human condition to yearn and want to evolve.

What do you desire? A month-long tropical vacation, or to create a new business? Maybe you want to retire early or buy a vacation home? Maybe what you really desire is more financial wealth.

Whatever we desire, we must have the right point of attraction to energetically draw it to us.

What do I mean? Well, let’s use money as an example. Let’s say you want to attract $10,000, but you only have $500 in your bank account.

Scenario #1: You look at your bank account and you only see $500. You do not see $10,000 so it feels like $9,500 missing. In this case, your point of attraction is the absence of the $9,500 you want!

And you know the deal…

When we practise absence, we get more absence. (Far from ideal!)

This scenario is easy to do (we’ve been practising it for years) and easy not to do BUT it requires a new way of thinking and diligence to make it a practise that pays off!! Let me explain how to switch it up.

Scenario #2: You look at your bank account and see $500, and you want $10,000. You focus on the presence of what you DO have ($500) then you take time to bask in the feeling of appreciation, satisfaction and gratitude for this $500! You are as grateful and appreciative as you possibly can be for the presence of this $500! In this case, your point of attraction is focused on the presence of what you want to attract.

Practising presence along with appreciation, satisfaction and gratitude are very very different vibrations from absence!!

And again, you know the deal, when we practise the presence of anything, and believe in it, we attract more of it.

Sadly, we are a society that limits ourselves to what we can only experience in our current physical reality (our 5 senses: we can see, smell, touch, hear, taste). But if we truly want to grow and consciously create our lives, we must access our higher faculties– our imagination for one.

So to attract the full $10,000 into your bank account you must use your imagination and visualize the presence of $10,000 AND get emotionally involved!! (rinse and repeat)

You must move beyond your current circumstances and experience your future desired reality in advance. Use all your senses to experience the $10,000 NOW. Imagine that the $10,000 is in your bank account RIGHT NOW. (Pause. Feel it… Imagine it to be true… Believe it to be true.) How do you feel? Giddy? Overjoyed? Elated? Feel it now just as if it is happening now.

Want to know the paradox?

Most people think they need to experience the desire (in this case, money) first, in order to feel the way they want to feel. But as I demonstrated, you can feel that way RIGHT NOW. And if you can feel that way right now, then you don’t actually need the desire at all.

After all, isn’t feeling good the whole point anyway?



Over the last year and half there’s been a pattern of women, clients, and friends coming to me about their intimate relationships, wondering whether they should stay or go.

They are saying things like, I don’t like how they do this or that, or that they don’t treat me the way I want to be treated, or that they are not present in the relationship or around when they need them.

It’s a lot of finger pointing about what they don’t like about their partner.

When I dig a little bit, I usually discover that they have one foot in the relationship and the other foot out. They are wanting more commitment, affection or love from their partner but they are not committed, being affectionate or loving themselves. We know, it doesn’t work that way!

Everything is energy. When we are energetically half out the door, isn’t it reasonable to think that our partner might be too?

Sadly, living with one foot in and one foot out is the way so many people live their lives!

And that’s where the real problem lies.

When we’re not committed to something, it’s impossible to make a correct decision about it.

And this isn’t just true for relationships. It can apply to our careers, businesses, health, anything really.

To get clarity about our intimate relationships or anything else in our lives for that matter, we must fully show up first. That means getting the other foot back in!

What does that look like in a relationship?

1. Take the focus off: Him or her or what he or she is doing right or wrong.

2. Shift the focus on: YOU! YOU DO YOU, and do it to your absolute best ability! (That means giving what you want to receive. Give commitment, give affection, give love etc)

3. Rinse and repeat!!

It’s from this new place that things will fall into place exactly as they are meant to.

Because when you shift, your partner will shift… or not.

No right or wrong, no blame or shame. Just the truth.

But you must fully show up with two feet in to get clarity!

Showing up for you first means showing up for the relationships. It takes a boat load of courage, but it is the path of least resistance and the fastest way to see what is best for both of you.

Because at the end of the day, don’t you want your two feet to be met with someone else’s two feet?